Overcoming Your Mind When It Tells You Things Aren’t Possible

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“That’ll never happen. That’s not even realistic. Who do you even think you are? You don’t have what it takes. You’ll never reach that goal. Good things don’t happen for you. It’s just not possible. Your life needs to be hard. Oh and remember… you’re not enough.”

Any of these thoughts sound familiar?? Does your mind like to feed you sentences like these on a weekly or even a daily basis?

Yeah, mine too.

This particular topic was actually inspired by one of my followers on Instagram. She asked, “How do you overcome your mind when it tells you certain things aren’t possible?” I LOVED this question so much because it’s something I’ve actually been working on myself and it seems to be a common theme for a lot of people in my personal life as well.

So, first of all- I wanted to sum up this question into one word that’s easily understood and relatable to all of us. And the word I decided on was DOUBT. Because that’s essentially what we are experiencing when we are feeling uncertain or demonstrating a lack of confidence in something, right? Something that we want to be possible and achievable but the mind just doesn’t quite believe it yet. And this can be applicable with so many situations in life. Here is a personal example I’ll share that demonstrates this concept really well in my opinion… 

Earlier this year, my sister was feeling incredibly inspired and guided to move to New York. So, in April she acted on that feeling, packed up her things and moved to the city that never sleeps! She has dreams of attending one of the top acupuncture schools in the US there. But if you’re at all familiar with New York City, then you know it costs A LOT of $$$ to live there. In my sister’s situation, she’s been given an amazing business opportunity in the medical field that would provide more than enough money for her to live comfortably there AND go to acupuncture school part time. BUT… she is considered an independent contractor, so of course the income she gets will depend on how much business she’s able to generate on her own. Talk about a perfect opportunity for DOUBT to creep in. Her heart knows what’s possible, she can feel it in her bones how successful she could be, she knows she’s got all of the qualifications to be amazing at this job. But… her mind naturally wants to tell her that none of this is possible. That she’s going to fail. That this whole New York thing will not work out. This is where she has two choices… she can either believe her doubt and let her mind take over, OR she can choose to get past it and prove to herself what is possible!  We all have these two choices.

So how do we navigate this?? How do we overcome the doubt in our minds and push through it?

In an article written by a man from Harvard Business school, he explains; “All healthy human beings have an inner stream of thoughts and feelings that include criticism, doubt and fear. That’s just our minds doing the job they were designed to do: trying to anticipate and solve problems and avoid potential pitfalls.”

If this statement above is true, then that means that when we have inner thoughts of doubt and fear, we are actually healthy human beings with minds that are just doing what they are meant to do! So, maybe…. the goal shouldn’t be TO OVERCOME the doubt. To overcome it sort of implies that we conquer it and get rid of it. But that’s not the way our minds work. So, maybe instead…. the goal should be to EXPECT the doubt to show up. Expect that no matter how badly you want something or how much you believe in it, you will at some point have that inner stream of thoughts that tell you, “this isn’t possible.” When you expect your mind to do this to you, it makes it much easier to just observe it happening instead of getting entirely wrapped up in it and spiraling from there. 

It really takes away so much of the heavy, discouraging feelings when you’re able to just NOTICE and WATCH those doubtful thoughts play out and just say to yourself… “yep, this is just the part where my brain freaks out a little and is going to tell me all the things that I should fear and expect to go wrong. And it’s okay. I know my brain is just doing it’s job. But I’m no longer giving into the doubt. Because I know what’s truly possible. My brain just doesn’t know it yet.”

Here’s the thing- Your mind is ALWAYS going to look for evidence by what is happening in the present and what has happened in the past. And once your mind sees that the evidence it has doesn’t actually match the future you desire or the goal you plan to achieve, it’s going to freak out! It’s going to try to protect you from pitfalls and from emotional discomfort because it is scared and it wants you to act on fear… not faith or confidence.

The mind says things to us like-

“you’ve never lived in New York before and made a successful living here… so it’s just not possible.”

“you’ve never lost 40 lbs before… so it’s just not possible”

“you’ve never had a healthy marriage before… so it’s just not possible”

“you’ve never gone back to finish your degree… so it’s just not possible”

“you’ve never created your own business before… so it’s just not possible”

Many of us get paralyzed simply because we end up believing these things our mind tells us. But the key is to train yourself to rise above it. And my simple advice for doing that would be these 4 steps—

-1st- EXPECT THE DOUBT TO SHOW UP (as I mentioned earlier- super important)

-2nd- EXERCISE YOUR AWARENESS (meaning when the doubt does come and those thoughts flood your mind, just notice it and observe it without any judgement- that means no judging yourself and no judging the thoughts!) Just simply be aware of what your mind is doing and remember that it’s completely normal. You don’t need to make it mean anything else.)

-3rd- NURTURE YOUR BELIEF IN YOURSELF! ( every single day you should visualize what you want and imagine yourself achieving it. Make a strategy of how you’re going to achieve it. Talk to yourself and intentionally think  thoughts that will encourage you and push you forward every day! Speak affirmations to yourself! And one of my personal favorites- get a journal and write down what you want to happen, as if it has ALREADY happened. Commit to doing that several times a week. Rachel Hollis preaches this a lot and has had crazy success and personal growth in her life because of it!)

-4th- TAKE ACTION NO MATTER WHAT! (no matter how much your mind tells you to doubt and to think that things aren’t possible, You MUST take action anyway. Taking action builds evidence and results. And remember, evidence is what your brain uses and looks for in order to believe that something is possible! And, whatever you do, try not to hang out in indecision for too long. Not making a decision about something just feeds your doubt and confusion like crazy! I’ve seen this happen in myself plenty of times. And the only way to get better is to practice making decisions quickly and taking action. Otherwise your mind will get in the way and end up draining you, keeping you feeling stuck.

OKAY! If you made it to the end of this post, congratulations! I hope this post gives you some guidance and some new ideas to try! OR I hope that it just confirms things that you already know. ❤ Practicing these steps really can make all the difference!

“Doubt your doubt before you doubt your faith.” -Dieter F Uchtdorf

Have a great week! Love, Morgan




Building Confidence When You Feel Broken

Most of us have had times in our lives, perhaps extremely long periods of time, where we felt broken. Maybe you’ve felt emotionally defeated, insecure, hopeless, and inadequate. If so, you’re not alone. I went through years of feeling that way. And the worst part for me was that I didn’t see a way out of it. I felt unloved, insecure and depressed. Part of it stemmed from post partum depression and part of it stemmed from difficult life experiences I’d been through . But what made it all soooo much worse was self sabotage. Which of course at the time I wasn’t even aware of what I was doing. But I would numb my emotions with food or social media instead of actually facing those emotions and working through them in a healthy way. I would procrastinate things that were important to me. I’d often find myself wallowing in self-pity and I spent zero time taking care of myself or showing myself any kind of love.

I remember thinking all the time, “I feel so miserable and lost, I can’t ever see myself being a confident person again like I used to be”. But what’s interesting is there never really was a time in my life that I was truly confident. However, in my mind I thought I totally had been at one point. I remember when I was in high school and early college I thought pretty highly of myself. I was so good at not focusing on anything that I was insecure about. I only did things that made me feel great about myself and I would only share the parts of myself that I thought were worthy of sharing. When people complimented me on my talents or my looks, I took that as validation and permission to believe that I was pretty amazing. Sounds SO CONFIDENT right?!? Far from it. I didn’t learn what true confidence was until much, much later in my life.

But what I know about confidence now? I now know that confidence doesn’t come from anything outside of you. I know it doesn’t come from thinking you’re amazing or better than someone else. I know it absolutely doesn’t come from only focusing on the things you’re good at or hiding the things you’re bad at. It doesn’t come from compromising your values. It doesn’t come from makeup and hair products and cute clothes (although I will always love those things). It doesn’t come from people complimenting you and approving of you. It doesn’t come from throwing your kid a Pinterest worthy birthday party or from being “the best” at anything. And it sure as heck doesn’t mean any of the things I thought it meant in high school and college.

So here’s the truth and the realization that literally changed my life…

Real confidence comes from knowing who you are and embracing ALL parts of yourself. Even the parts that are flawed. Real confidence comes from loving yourself exactly as you are AND choosing to be okay with the fact that you’ve still got crap to work through! Because guess what… we all do. It’s part of this life experience. And it’s all OK. Confidence also comes from training your inner voice to be KIND (this is a big one). Kind to yourself and kind to others. Nothing will kill your confidence quicker than when you believe the lies your brain tells you about yourself. That inner voice we all have is by default more negative and condescending than it is positive and uplifting. So YOU have to be the one who trains it to speak to you with love and compassion and positivity. That right there is one of the most confidence growing skills I’ve ever learned. Along with taking responsibility for your own emotions and not assigning someone else the job of making you feel something you want to feel. Meaning you can’t expect someone else to give you YOUR confidence. It’s an internal job and it can only be done by YOU.

And lastly, one of the most powerful things that I’ve found helps you grow real confidence is keeping commitments to yourself. We often take action and keep commitments we’ve made in order to please other people. But it’s an entirely different experience when you choose to do something because you’re honoring a commitment to YOURSELF. If this is something you’ve personally worked on in your life, you know it not only builds self-confidence but it also builds self-trust and self-respect!

So where do you start?? Start by first recognizing that you are not broken. You never were. You have always been whole and beautiful and capable. No matter what you’ve been through. Once you’ve worked on believing that, then decide to take ownership of where you’re currently at in your life and start growing from there! But you MUST decide first to love yourself as you are right now. That can be a hard step, but it is necessary. It’s tempting to think that once we’ve built up our confidence enough, THEN we will finally feel love for ourselves. That’s what I used to believe. But that’s totally backwards. Self-Love does not come from confidence. Confidence comes from making the choice to love yourself. Flaws and all. So start there friends. ❤

Love, Morgan

3 Things That Can Help Anyone Improve Their Emotional Wellbeing

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Over the years I’ve noticed that many people tend to have little nuggets of wisdom, or universal “secrets” that they carry with them throughout life. Some of these nuggets they’ve learned on their own through experience and others they’ve learned from mentors and/or ordinary people that have chosen to pass their knowledge on to them. I’m extremely grateful for those people. Those people who chose to share their knowledge rather than keep it to themselves. Those people who didn’t let their fear of judgement or criticism hold them back from sharing what they have to say. Because no matter how many people overlook it or reject it, there is ALWAYS someone (typically many of us) who need to hear it and benefit from it.

Today I want to share just 3 things from my rather long (and still growing) list of helpful life tools/skills/secrets/nuggets, that have majorly and positively impacted my happiness, confidence, and wellbeing.


I can’t stress this one enough. I talk about it continuously on my Instagram page (@intentionalpeaceandjoy) and am always sharing ways to manage what goes on in our brains. Over 60,000 thoughts go through our heads every single day and MANY of those thoughts are habitual, repetitive and negative. Most of those thoughts consistently come and go without us ever even taking a second to ask ourselves, “Is this thought true? Is this thought helping me in my life? Do I even want to believe this thought?” For example, a repetitive thought such as “I’m not enough” can have major effects not only on your mind but also on your body and your life. And you probably don’t even make the connection. But you think this thought enough times and it will become so wired in your brain to where you concretely feel and act on a daily basis as if you are not enough. It will inevitably affect everything you do and experience in your life to some degree. But this is where the skill of mind management comes in handy!

I’ve said before that this is the most liberating thing I’ve ever learned and I absolutely still feel that way. You learn to manage your mind by first becoming aware of the negative thought(s) your brain likes to feed you. I’d say pick one that you notice yourself having most often…and then you just simply ask yourself if you want to believe this thought or not. Help yourself see that it’s JUST a thought and that believing it is totally optional. When you’re ready, you can then lovingly redirect your mind to a better thought you can replace it with. Practice this enough times and you’ll see that it really puts you in control and takes away the illusion that your thoughts and emotions control YOU. They don’t. Unless you ALLOW them to. But be patient with yourself- I don’t know anyone who’s perfect at this mind skill 🙂


I’m not talking about your electric bill or when you think you need a caffeine boost! I’m talking about being aware of the energetic field that we all have IN and AROUND each of us. We’ve carried it with us our entire lives and it is a very real part of who we are on a mental, emotional, (and even physical) level. Some people don’t personally believe in energy or understand how it works, but that doesn’t change it’s existence or the affect it has on each of us every single day. To put it simply- EVERYTHING is energy.

Your thoughts are energy, your words are energy, your emotions are energy, the room you’re sitting in is energy, the person next to you is energy. We feel and pick up on energy all day long but most of us are not aware that that is what we’re feeling. When you say “this person (or place) has a good vibe”, what you’re talking about is the “energy” you feel radiating from that person or place. So how can being aware of energy be helpful to you? WELL… When you start becoming aware of it, you start to realize and take note of how much of a difference positive/healing energy can make for you in your life. You’ll start noticing how emotionally better you feel when you’re in certain places, or with certain people, or doing certain activities, or eating certain foods, or listening to certain music or books. Once you start noticing that, you’ll then naturally start wanting to CREATE more of that energy for yourself in your life. You’ll be more intentional with the thoughts you choose, the words you say, the things you choose to spend you’re time doing, the people you surround yourself with, etc. And THEN you may just want to go a little deeper and start learning ways to release negative, traumatic energy patterns that you have in yourself! And THAT is the most amazing thing ever. I will share more about that in a later post as it is something I’m very passionate about. 🙂


This can mean something different for everyone. But for me, it means knowing that there is more to myself and more to this life experience than what my brain can see and understand at this point. It’s knowing and believing that there is a higher power (for me it’s God) that is orchestrating the details of my life and is watching over me. It’s believing and knowing that there is so much to look forward to beyond this earthly life. Spiritual Security doesn’t mean you never have questions or you never feel afraid when life takes unexpected turns. I believe it just means that you are always willing to trust in a higher purpose, in a guided path, in your own intuition, and in the spiritual gifts you have inside of you. I’ve heard many people in my life say, “I’m just not naturally spiritual, I’m just not a very faithful person, I just have a hard time believing in things beyond what I can see.” But what I’ve learned is that being spiritually secure is really a choice you make. It’s something you work on and develop in little ways every day. And when this is how you intentionally choose to live your life, I believe it allows your mind to find both perspective and happiness much more easily than if you had no spiritual security or foundation. These are just my thoughts and beliefs. Take it or leave it 🙂

I hope you found these 3 thoughts/tips to be helpful! Please feel free to reach out if you have any questions or comments! I wish everyone the best in your journey with emotional wellbeing and creating greater peace and joy in your life. Have a beautiful weekend!

Love, Morgan

Forgiveness and Letting Go

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Forgiveness has undoubtedly been one of the biggest lessons I’ve had to learn in my life. Over the past 30 years, I’ve experienced a number of situations that have always led me to two choices- either continue holding onto anger and resentment over what’s occurred… or work towards forgiveness and letting go. However, it wasn’t until much later in my life that I was able to understand the amount of relief, power and freedom that lies in the latter decision. Many of you know the emotional freedom I’m talking about but I know there are plenty that are still struggling to get there. I was once there too.

Chances are you have experienced pain in your life. Chances are, you at some point have been put in a situation that you never asked for. Chances are, you’ve been deeply hurt before by someone you love in one way or another. And chances are, you’ve felt some, if not a lot, of emotional trauma over it. Maybe that someone was your parent, or your spouse, or a friend, or a stranger, or a co-worker, or just someone close to your family. Maybe what happened was absolutely horrific and truly the most painful thing ever. But I’ve learned that no matter who that “someone” is or what that “someone” did- the two choices I mentioned above remain the same… Forgiveness or Resentment.

Let me be clear that I don’t think it’s as simple as just making a choice one day and then everything’s lovely and wonderful after that. No… But the process does START with a choice. It starts with your willingness to change your perception and to try to see the situation in a different light. It starts with your desire to let go. To let go of the story, let go of the judgement, let go of your need for anything to be fixed and your need for that person to suffer for their actions (no matter how terrible of a thing they did). From my experience, you simply cannot heal until you start accepting and letting go. But this does not mean you have to agree with what they did, nor does it mean you need to allow that person in your life again. It just means that your choice to forgive is for YOU and YOUR healing. Its not for them.

With that said- I believe you shouldn’t try to start the forgiving process until you have truly allowed yourself to process your emotions. To grieve, to be angry, to feel sad and heartbroken- It’s crucial that you allow these feelings to be present and to feel them for whatever period of time you need to. I believe it’s also incredibly helpful if you have someone else in your life that is willing to hold the space for you to feel what you need to feel and express what you need to express. Whether that’s a friend or family member, or a coach or therapist. I believe this is so beneficial for any healing process.

There was a conference talk given by Jeffrey R Holland, in the 2018 General Conference for The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints… In it he stated something that has always stayed with me. He said, “Despite the most terrible offenses that come to us, we can rise above our pain only when we put our feet onto the true path of healing.”

So now the real question… Once we are ready, how can we put ourselves onto the true path of healing? I’ll share some ways that I’ve found to be incredibly powerful and effective in my own life:

  1. Start with believing and knowing that the Lord understands what you feel and have been through. He understands perfectly your pain and your suffering. Through the atonement, He has suffered it all so that you don’t have to continue to carry it. Your hurt, your disappointment, your heartache, your anger and resentment- knowing that you can give it all to Him is the first and most important step.
  2. Changing your perception. This is so crucial in the process of forgiveness and healing. You cannot truly forgive or let go when you have a continuous mindset of “How could this have happened to me? or “I’ll never get past this” or “I’ve been so wronged.” To really help shift your perception, you’ve got to start asking yourself and exploring questions like, “What is this experience doing FOR me?” or “What is my heart meant to gain from all of this?” Questions like that will interrupt your typical thought pattern and can really help your perception to start shifting. But you must take the time to really ponder these questions and answer them.
  3. Writing. If you’ve been reading my blog or following me on Instagram, you know that I feel strongly about writing and journaling. Writing your thoughts and feelings on paper is like a form of meditation that allows you to clear negative energy, and at the same time it frees up space in your mind for healing thoughts to be created. I personally have found that for the purpose of forgiving someone, it’s incredibly effective to write a letter. (Even if you have no intention of giving them the letter). When you write a letter to the person who you’re struggling to forgive, expressing all of your thoughts and feelings, it really helps release those trapped emotions inside of you and promotes the healing process. And always CRY when you need to cry. Don’t fight it.
  4. Affirmations. Affirmations are just statements said with intention. And that intention combined with feeling is what allows your mind, body and spirit to benefit from them. So if you consistently practice affirmations with the intention to help yourself forgive and heal, you will find that to be the exact result you start creating for yourself. Affirmations like, “I choose to forgive so I can be free. I am letting go of all anger and frustration. I move through forgiveness into compassion. I now choose to release all hurt and resentment. I am ready to be healed and I am willing to forgive.” You could use any or all of these affirmations on a daily basis and I guarantee you would be amazed at what they do for you! Your words have such power!
  5. Forgiveness Meditation. This has been one of the most powerful things I’ve learned to do. And it doesn’t need to be complicated. I’m going to share a simplified version that is still very effective… First, you find a quiet place without any distractions, (for me it’s my bedroom), sit down and close your eyes. Before you begin, set your intention of forgiveness. Meaning that you basically declare in your mind that the purpose of this meditation is to help you move into forgiving, and keep your energy flowing toward that result. Then, you can simply visualize the person in your mind who you’ve harbored these feelings toward. Imagine them as the imperfect human they are. Imagine them with all the internal struggles that they perhaps have never overcome or healed from since childhood…which could be the very reason they act the way they do and have done what they’ve done. Visualize yourself feeling love and compassion for them in that moment (Important) .You can even imagine reaching your hand out to them or hugging them and saying the words, “I forgive you.” Focus on the feelings this gives you, and breathe through it—– As I said, this is a simplified version you can try and honestly it doesn’t have to be exactly what I’ve described here. You can do whatever you feel works for you. The point is just to do it and watch how your mind, heart and soul benefit from this kind of meditation. It’s pretty incredible.

I could keep going but I’ll stop here 🙂 I hope you find these tips helpful! If you are struggling now to forgive someone, but feel ready to make some progress, give these tools a try. I promise you they will make all the difference as long as your intention is there and you involve the Lord in all of it. And as someone who has been through a very long and life changing journey of forgiveness, I can say that it is worth the effort to get there. There is no greater relief and inner peace I’ve ever felt than the day I knew I’d forgiven the person who I blamed for so much of my pain for so many years. I wish that same inner peace for you in your journey to forgiveness.

Love, Morgan

Finding God in Emotional Healing

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I believe that God is a god of intention. I believe that He is a God of infinite love. I believe that He wants what is best for all of His children and that He intentionally places people, experiences, and trials in our life so that we can ultimately achieve what is best for us. But because we are human, sometimes our emotions keep us from achieving that. Emotions like fear, self doubt, anxiety, overwhelm, stress, confusion, blame, resentment, etc.

This is why I feel so strongly about emotional wellness. This is why I blog, why I share my experiences, why I read and study so many books and programs and why I choose to live my life the way I do now. Yes, the tools that I use and the advice I share have all played a huge part in my healing. But It is only through the Lord that I have been able to come to this place in my life. It was only through Him that I was guided to learn all of these amazing things in the first place. I asked Him for help. I pleaded with Him to somehow help me uncover the person that I knew was buried under a mountain of emotional traumas. Traumas that can seem so subtle from the outside. But nevertheless, traumas that over time can drag you lower and lower and keep you from feeling true happiness and purpose in your life. Not to mention the physical issues they can cause. (Heart palpitations and chronic fatigue were two of my main physical issues that I never realized were related to my emotional issues)

I wanted something better for myself. I wanted to be a better mother than I felt I was being to my kids. I wanted to be a better wife. I wanted to feel more connected to God and to my true spiritual self that I had once known. I wanted to feel healthy and whole. I wanted to be able to better help family and friends who I love. I wanted to strengthen my relationships. I wanted to be able to love and accept myself not just despite, but BECAUSE of my weaknesses and I wanted to be able to forgive certain people in my life for theirs. I wanted to grow and prove to myself that I could do hard things. And part of that meant re-learning what it truly means to love unconditionally. Something I hadn’t experienced in a very long time because of my emotional struggles. I was ready create something totally different in my life. I was ready to release everything that was holding me back. And I wanted Heavenly Father to show me how to do this.

What came next was a journey of self development and self healing that I truly did not know was possible. I have been guided from one thing to the next. Still, every week I feel is like a new lesson learned, a new experience had, and more inspiration from The Lord comes to me, letting me know to keep going on this path. And because I have chosen to listen, I have had the most incredible experiences of others reaching out to me and telling me that they applied something I shared in conversation or in a blog post or a social media post and they have been amazed, seeing their own healing taking place and their lives starting to change for the better. It’s truly a testimony to me that this type of work on ourselves matters! I know and believe that it is so very important and that God CARES DEEPLY about our emotional wellbeing.

I believe that it is through our own emotional healing and self development that He is able to use us in a more spiritually impactful way. In a way that allows us to recognize and more confidently share our gifts and strengths and knowledge and testimonies with others. To build each other up and help each other grow.

But when we are disconnected from God and from ourselves, or when we consistently feel emotionally stuck, it can become difficult to remember who you truly are, to recognize all the amazing gifts you have to give, and to create something better in your life than what you are currently experiencing…or even to just simply feel happy. Sometimes that’s all we want. I know it because I have lived it. And I promise there is hope and healing waiting for you. Always.

Love, Morgan


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Hey there! It’s good to be back after a couple of weeks! My family and I have some exciting life changes happening but they sure are keeping us busy from week to week. We also had the opportunity to take our kids to the snow in central California before it melted, so we made sure we did that! Best day ever! Why are little kids all dressed up in snow gear so stinking adorable?? Seriously. Anyway, enough rambling. 🙂

So, this blog topic has been on my mind for a while. I often use the hashtag “createyourlife” at the bottom of my Instagram posts. And I often wonder how people interpret that. What does it mean to create your life? Have you ever sincerely asked yourself what you believe about that? Does it mean to “make things happen”? Does it mean to create a plan every day and do your best to stick to it? Does it mean setting goals and actually achieving them? Does it mean believing in something so deeply that you are bound to manifest it?

To me…Yes, I do think it means all of those things. But I think there are also some key parts of creating your life that many of us tend to overlook. And I wish these key parts were taught in school. I truly do. I wonder how much better of a start I would have gotten on my life! But that’s ok 🙂 Maybe someday they will be taught to students. For now, I’m just going to make sure I teach them to my own children once they’re old enough. So, here’s 3 things I believe are essential when it comes to the process of “creating your life”.

  1. CREATE YOUR EMOTIONS. We can do that?? Yes, we can totally do that. That being said, we all have circumstances in life that trigger thoughts and emotions which almost seem to happen without any warning. And it’s incredibly important to recognize, allow and process those emotions. But we also have the power to generate emotions within us by intentionally thinking, meditating or visualizing. We can create emotions on purpose. A simple example is how I feel genuinely sad and get teary eyed by imagining something heartbreaking happening to someone I love. But I can also make myself feel immense joy and excitement by imagining being on vacation in Rome with my husband. So why does this matter in creating your life? Because your emotions are what drive you to take action. They can either inspire you to go and create what you desire, or they can keep you stuck in a negative pattern of fear, doubt, and inaction. I’ve been really practicing generating my desired emotions every day for the past 7 months- the ones I often choose are Love, Gratitude and Confidence. And I can’t even express just how much this simple practice has healed me and has helped change my world for the better. It’s allowed me to create so much good in my life in so many ways.

2. CREATE YOUR STORY. You are not your past. You are not the story that people tell about you. You are not your mistakes, your weaknesses or your failures. You are not the things you constantly doubt about yourself. You are whoever you choose to be and your story is whatever you choose to write moving forward. This doesn’t mean denying your story, but rather “owning your story and writing a brave new ending”… as Brene Brown puts it. And don’t fall into the “but I’ve just always been this way” lie. Just because you’ve always had a short temper, or have always been too reserved to go after your dreams, or have always been an emotional eater (a battle I’ve struggled with my whole life), none of that means that you have to be that person for the rest of your life. You can love yourself despite the struggles you’ve had, and decide right now that you are going to change your story and create a new one moving forward! I know it can be scary to let go of a story that you’ve always told yourself. Your brain will even try to resist you changing at first. But once you get past that first part that feels a little uncomfortable… a whole new world of healing, intuition and possibilities will open up to you! That has been my experience.

3. CREATE YOUR ENDING. You may think this is similar to creating your story but it’s actually quite different. I’ll share a simple example of what I mean by this. Almost 5 years ago my husband unexpectedly lost his job. He job hunted and went to interviews for about 8 months. 8 very stressful months. I was watching him do this and trying to be the support he needed. But instead of just trusting and believing in the ending I wanted, (which was- that he would get a great new job that offered new growth experiences and would be a blessing for our family), I remember getting so hung up on the details of “how” this was going to happen and “who” would be the person or company to hire him. And “when” on earth would this actually happen?? Needless to say, my faith was tested. I caused so much stress and anxiety for myself by obsessing over the details that I truly had no control over. And when the time came that he finally did get hired, it ended up being an amazing opportunity that came with several blessings that were totally not expected and never planned for. It required us to move to Southern California which I also never saw happening nor did I ever want. But it has been one of the greatest blessings of my life. So my point to this is to help you see that all you really need to be focused on is the ending you want. Don’t stress trying to figure out the “how”. Just believe wholeheartedly in whatever you want to manifest. Do your part and The Lord will take care of the details. And often He will give you even more than what you were trying to manifest in the first place.

Love, Morgan


How Can I Gain and Keep Perspective?

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“Life is ever changing.”
That’s what my family member said to me a couple of weeks ago during a conversation we had about certain life experiences and trials. We were talking about how different life has been since the unexpected passing of someone we love, and yet at the same time how life hasn’t changed at all. That’s sort of the cruel paradox when it comes to tragedy or sudden life change isn’t it? No matter how big or how small the traumatic event, life still goes on. Responsibilities are still there. People still need taken care of. Bills still have to be paid. Problems still need to be solved. Memories still need to be made. Life still has to be lived. And often that’s the last thing we want to do when a special part of our world is suddenly gone or altered in some way .

Of course it doesn’t always happen in the form of death. Sometimes it happens in the form of someone else’s choices turning your world upside down, or watching someone you dearly love get hurt. Sometimes it’s receiving a diagnosis of some sort, losing a job, getting through divorce, or any unexpected events that change the course of your goal or dream. Maybe it’s even a change that you are actually welcoming into your life but you still feel uneasy and scared of the unknown.

Whatever life changing event you’ve experienced (or will experience), it can be extremely difficult (sometimes impossible) to pick yourself up and truly move forward in your life if you do not have perspective. Have you noticed that your brain is very good at worrying, thinking dramatic thoughts and jumping to worst case scenarios? It’s completely natural for the brain to do that because it was designed to protect us and keep us safe. That fight or flight feeling we get comes from our brain’s instinctual reaction to when we feel fear or sense danger… Which is why the brain often reacts that same way when we experience tragedy or sudden life changes. It’s just doing what comes natural to it.

So this is where the power of perspective is INCREDIBLY helpful to us!

I want to share with you 3 QUESTIONS (that I personally use) that can be so useful when you’re trying to gain and keep perspective- especially during the hard times. But also during situations when you’re just trying to help your brain chill out and take a step back to see the bigger picture.

Question #1: What do I have control over right now?

My answers to this are always the same: my thoughts and my actions. I can’t control or change what has happened, I can’t control other people, and I can’t control exactly how things will play out in the future. But I can totally govern my own thoughts and actions moving forward. And I can make sure that they are thoughts and actions that will help me show up in my life as the person I want to be. Decide what your intention is and go from there.

Question #2: What would my future self most likely tell me?

This question is powerful because we often have greater perspective later on down the road when we’re not so caught up in the middle of it. So asking this question helps me remove myself from the situation momentarily and gets me thinking about what my future perspective would be or could be. I’m telling you this is super helpful. Something that I honestly recommend is writing yourself a letter from your future self. I’ve done that numerous times and it’s very powerful. Try it! You just might be surprised at what it can do for you.

Question #3: What do I choose to learn from this experience?

I love this one. When we are going through a difficult situation, we so often hear or think “I’m sure there’s a reason”… or “I’m sure I’m supposed to learn something from this.” And that attitude isn’t a bad one by any means, but I’ve noticed that sometimes it tends to keep us waiting to see what we are “supposed” to learn from it- or it can keep us waiting and looking for the answer to “why” this happened to us. But what if YOU just decide what lesson you are going to learn from this and how you will use it in your life moving forward? What if YOU decide what it will mean for you and your future, instead of waiting to find out what’s supposed to happen next.

That’s the thing about our free agency. God gave us the ability to choose for ourselves and to co-create our lives. And that is true even in times of change, trial, tragedy or confusion. He will never take away our freedom to choose what we do with our lives. And that’s why I love these questions so much. They help me remember that gaining perspective is a choice, moving forward with faith and confidence is a choice. It might not be the easiest choice… but it is most definitely the one that brings the most peace and joy. And allows you to live your life to the fullest… even amidst the trials.

And to quote a friend- “You don’t keep your chin up because you’re trying to put on a good face during a hard time. You do it because you know what’s waiting for you ahead.”

Love, Morgan

How Can Music Influence My Emotional/Mental Wellbeing?

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“Music touches us emotionally, where words alone cant.” -Johnny Depp

I’m sure this quote has been true for most everyone reading this. Music, at one point or another in your life, has probably touched you in a way that only music can. If you’re like me, you love music deeply and use it for all sorts of situations in life. I love listening to music when I clean my house, when I write, when I want to calm my anxiety, when I need to cry, when I want to feel spiritually connected, when I just want to sing, the list goes on and on.

More than anything, music has played a huge role in helping me heal from things in my life. It has been my therapist in a way. A safe haven. At my lowest lows I have turned to music, or reached for my guitar and just let my emotions play through my fingers on the strings. When I experienced my first real heartbreak in college, when I’ve had marriage struggles, when my parents divorced, when my father in law passed away unexpectedly, when my childhood home was sold, when I’ve simply struggled to let go- music has always been there for me.

Did you know that there are actually music therapists? I just recently learned this. They use music to help treat patients with Depression, Alzheimer’s, and Autism, as well as a number of other things. Music has the ability to trigger emotions, thoughts and memories in people. It also has power to help with developmental delays and impaired cognition. It has power to help heal us. Pretty amazing!

Along with music, we can find inspiration in lyrics. Something I have come to realize and appreciate so deeply is the way that lyrics can affect us. Certain lyrics speak straight to my soul in a way that feels like they were written specifically for my life and my experiences. They also have the power to inspire your mind and bring certain thoughts to you that can literally move you to take needed action in your life.

An example of this happening for me was one day when I was listening to Nichole Nordeman. Her song “Every Mile Mattered”. There is a part in it where she says… “It’s history, It don’t define you. You’re free to leave it all behind you. Every tear brought you here, every sorrow gathered. It’s history, and every mile mattered.”

Those words pierced my heart and opened my mind to a new perspective in a split second. I remember stopping the song and actually replaying that part. It helped me be able to see myself and my life in a new way. The thought and realization that I was literally free to leave certain things behind me that I’d been struggling to get past. I didn’t have to let any of it define my life moving forward or take up any more precious space in my mind. The realization that I could be grateful for certain experiences and hardships simply because they brought me here, but I no longer had to carry them with me. It was such a powerful epiphany for me. One of many moments of pure inspiration I’ve had all because of a simple song that spoke to me.

Never underestimate the power of music or the power of lyrics. Let them speak to you and work within you. Use them to enrich your life, to open your mind and to heal your soul. And they will.

Love, Morgan

How Do I Change My Limiting Beliefs?

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Let’s start with the obvious question first… What is a limiting belief? A limiting belief is simply something you believe to be true about yourself, about others, or about the world, that limits you in some way. Limiting beliefs can be toxic. They constrain us. They can make our vibrant spirits seem dim, they can hide beautiful parts of our personality, they can (and typically do) stunt our personal growth, and keep us from taking action on things we feel drawn to do.

So throughout your life, you’ve had experiences that have shaped your thoughts and beliefs about yourself and about the world. Those thoughts and beliefs have likely become engrained in you for so long, to the point that they feel like absolute facts to your brain. Your limiting beliefs usually develop in the past where something either happened to you, or someone said something to you that you interpreted a certain way. You then took it into your subconscious mind, and over time (years for a lot of us), you’ve unconsciously always looked for evidence to prove that belief about yourself to be true.

A simple example- maybe you did poorly in a particular math class one year and your teacher even made some harsh comments to you about it… and then you adopted a belief that you’re really bad at math. When in reality, that’s not the case at all. It’s just a belief that you have nurtured so deeply for so long and so now you’ve got so much evidence to prove it. We’ve all done this in one way or another. We all have limiting beliefs. And ya know what? We can let go of the ones we choose to, at any time we choose to.

So I’m going to share a limiting belief that I struggled with and the process for how I overcame it. This belief I had probably seems trivial or silly, (and I’ll admit it’s not one of the heaviest or most damaging beliefs that I’ve had), but it did GREATLY impact my self-confidence and my mental energy from day to day. And perhaps some of you even have the same one. This was my belief… “I’m really terrible at organizing closets. I hate it. It’s not my strength.”

Silly, right? But sometimes its these silly beliefs that create the bigger problems and chaos in our life. I can’t even tell you how hardcore I believed that I super sucked at organizing closets and it was such an overwhelming task. (Makes me laugh now). But it was to the point that my palms would get sweaty and I’d feel tremendous anxiety over the thought of doing it. This limiting belief led me to have cluttered, disorderly closets for years. And every time I’d walk into or walk by one of them, I could literally feel my mental energy being drained out of me. And I was finally ready to do something about it! So here’s how I learned to let go of that limiting belief that interfered with my life for so long. You can use these 3 simple steps below for any and all limiting beliefs you have, regardless how serious or how trivial.

STEP 1 Become aware of the limiting belief you struggle with regarding yourself or your life. You can do this by thinking of a goal you have or maybe a project you want to complete… no matter how big or small. (So in my case, it was organizing my walk in master closet) Notice the thoughts that come into your mind when you think about that goal or project. What does your brain start telling you? Also, recognize the emotions you feel surrounding your belief. My emotions about organizing my closet were dread, anxiety, and frustration. Which, for years, kept me avoiding the task all together.

STEP 2Be curious and compassionate with yourself. Do not judge yourself for the belief you have. Just get curious about it. Try to be understanding and have compassion for whatever experience you had that caused this belief to develop in the first place. (In other words, don’t tell yourself you’re ridiculous for having that belief). Love yourself through it. And don’t worry if you have a hard time connecting it to a specific past experience. What really matters is that you’re just aware you have the belief and that you’re ready to let it go.

STEP 3–  Choose a new empowering belief and envision it! So what I did in my case was I took my limiting belief and I challenged it with this question: “What if I’m actually great at organizing and it’s totally a strength I have? What if I LOVED organizing my master closet and it was even fun for me?” So that’s the new belief I chose to cultivate: “I’m super good at organizing and I have fun doing it!”

So now the envisioning part… I took this new empowering belief that I chose and I went and stood in my master closet. I closed my eyes and started envisioning. I envisioned myself organizing it and really ENJOYING the process of it all. I envisioned that I was purging and organizing that closet like a freakin pro. I envisioned the details of what the finished product would look like, with labeled bins for accessories, color coordinated shirts, neatly hung blouses, and only having things that actually belonged in the closet, in the closet (#hoarderproblems.) Everything was orderly and it had the most light, refreshing feel to it. I probably spent 3 to 5 minutes envisioning all of this in my mind, and when I opened my eyes- I felt something totally different- I felt excited, I felt motivated! I felt confident in my ability to complete this task from beginning to end and enjoy every bit of it. And ya know what? I totally did! And the finished product was just as I envisioned it. (I’ll do a later post on how and why envisioning works so incredibly well)

I had totally cracked my limiting belief and proved it wrong. So my new, empowering belief fueled my new actions, and my new actions blew me away, and that then solidified the new belief in myself to be true. See how that works?? Goodbye limiting belief! Hello Truth! It was so nice to finally meet you 🙂 I took this new belief and I started applying it to many other areas in my house, and within a month, I was able to have 5 major areas in my home cleaned out and organized. Areas that I had been staring at for years and feeling totally overwhelmed by. The struggle was finally gone. What a liberating and empowering lesson this was for me. And it all started with a choice. And with something as simple as a master closet. Imagine what you could do in the major areas of life!

I’ll leave you with some powerful words from one of my favorite actors, Hugh Jackman… “If you continue to tell yourself the same story, it will continue to be true. But when you change your story, you can change your life.”

Love, Morgan

Finding Balance: Lucky 13!

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Life, in a lot of ways, is about finding balance. A little over a year ago, I was very “off” mentally and emotionally. I was not managing my mind in a conscious or intentional way, and as a result I was totally unaware that my emotional beliefs were so incredibly imbalanced. And I was even more unaware of how much it was affecting so many areas of my life. I was not open to any other perspective except the one I had been living in for so long. I was missing out on so many valuable life lessons because I was too wrapped up in my own emotional struggles. I had beliefs like… “I’m a hot mess and I’ll probably never get it together”, “I’m so emotionally jacked up, something is so wrong with me.”, “Life freakin sucks”, “I’m so angry at this person for their decision”, “I’m not the mom I should be”, and on and on. I believed all of these things. And ya know what? Its normal. It’s the way the human brain works without any help or direction.

I’ve said before that I believe we learn and experience things in life at the time we are meant to. And I got to a point in my life where I just knew it was time. It was time for me to figure things out. It was time to do some soul searching, to heal from past experiences, to understand life on a deeper and more inspired level. Things started really changing for me once I dove into my journey of self-help and life coaching. I’ll be forever grateful for that decision and for the lessons I’ve learned and experiences I’ve had because of it. They have changed so much in my life for the better. So I wanted to share 13 of the most valuable lessons that, once I truly understood, helped me to create more balance in so many areas of my own life. You may have already learned some of these lessons for yourself! And if you have, then just consider these below to be good reminders 🙂

As I wrote these, I started thinking a lot of my teenage and college years for some reason. How much heartache, guilt, and insecurity I probably could have saved myself had I understood these things and applied them at that point in my life. It makes me so grateful for my understanding of them now and that I’ll be able to teach my children these lessons as they grow.














I invite you to add to this list! What are some of your most valued lessons or beliefs that help you create balance? 🙂 Thank you for always reading.

Love, Morgan

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